Freewrite week 6 day 1

I always thought my family was more like the Brady bunch growing up.  Actually that dilution lasted till I was in my late 20s.  Now I know better.  I finally know what it is to have a dysfunctional family.  It all changed after a huge family crisis.  People picked sides.  I would like to say we resolved the issues we had because of the crisis but we didn’t.  Like everything in my family it was eventually swept under the rug and ignored.  The huge problem with that is all the resentment and issues were never resolved so there is this current that runs under everything.  Because of that our dynamic is subject to that current and us doing everything not disrupting it.  This all worked for about a year.  Now I have a very basic relationship with my family.  They think that my partner has complete control over me and my actions.  What makes me so frustrated is the lack of my family trusting that they raised an independent and strong woman.  I have lost my relationship with my twin sister because we can’t talk about our issues.  I can’t talk to my dad about the fact that he blatantly favors her kids over mine.  I have spent so much time praying for an answer with no hope in a resolution.  I even sat down with my mom and was honest with her about how I felt.  It really didn’t do anything.  My dad has spent months ignoring my partner when she is in the room.  This even included Christmas morning in front of my mother in law.  She was so upset by his actions she almost packed up and left.  We were supposed to have my family over that day to have Christmas dinner but instead I had to tell them not to come.  Again I tried to talk to my mom about what had happened but it fell on deaf ears and a lot of defensiveness from her.  My partner has given up and just exists in my family.  It’s hard to walk into my family’s home and my dad walks out of the room not acknowledging her and sometimes me.  I have no idea why.  Now he even threw out passive aggressive comments to me about me being pregnant again.  I would love to get back to the Brady bunch but I feel it’s not healthy to not talk about the problems we have obviously it’s not doing us any good.